“Disconnecting is the art of saying
to one's own self”
Fifteen years ago, one of the chapters from our Advanced Psychology class said...
"Disconnecting is incubation time where creativity and wellness blossom and flourish".
Sitting in an airplane, I remembered this for some reason when a little air turbulence reconnected me back to my surroundings. A few co-passengers were still dozing off with earplugs, while others were chatting with people sitting next to them with a cup of coffee. It was a 7 hour long flight, enough time to be disconnected from the earth's long traffic jams.
It made me wonder if work, career and responsibilities are just excuses made by us to postpone living, and if we are really wise to lose out on gifts we never even paid for, like relaxing on a friend's shoulder, a real belly laugh in real time (which is now replaced by smileys on Whatsapp) or stopping to notice and admire the beauty around, to smell roses and touch the grass, to feel and to say,
"Yes, what a blessing it is to be alive!"
Mechanisation came to make our life easy and fast, but it made us puppets and servants because we forgot the art of connecting back to ourselves. I guess it's not we who are using these gadgets, it's them who are using us by consuming our life.
Disconnecting is a privilege these days. Many people imagine dis-connectivity only as a non-activity, lying back on sofa meditating or having a glass of beer. Which is fine. But it may also include vigorous stimulating physical or mental activities too, provided it should involve complete dis-connectivity from normal work life like hiking, yoga, pursuing some hobby, adventure etc.
Disconnecting has so many benefits. Here are few of those pearls worth sharing with you:
Disconnecting is Therapeutic for the Mind-Body-Emotions
Dis-connectivity is the restoration of mind-body-energy. Every body-mind has a certain natural bio energy field that needs some dis-connectivity with the outer physical, mechanical and mental work world for some time to get recharged.
Not paying attention to it may result into physical mental emotional discord, insomnia, muscular pains, sexual problems, unhealthy relationships, hypertension, restlessness , anxiety, irritability, depression and mood swings.
The inner science says - to be joyful and blissful it is important to shutdown the mind-brain’s activity for some time.
Similarly, being immersed in thoughts 24/7 leads to mental burn out resulting in poor performance, forgetfulness, brain fogginess and fatigue which is often felt by any professional, be it entrepreneur, sportsman, artist, writer, professor or philosopher.
This is one of the reasons why people fall prey to addictions as an urge to relax and switch off a hopping and chattering mind for a while. Why pay this heavy toll on your health if the same tranquility can be attained (with the added benefits of improved physical efficiency, intelligence and emotional wellness) through learning a simple art of dis-connectivity.
Now, even countries who are on top of the World's Happiness Index, motivate their populations to disconnect from work for some time for greater well-being.
Disconnecting Improves Self-Esteem and Confidence
To share love, joy and friendliness, we need to dig our own wells of positivity first. In aloneness with nature, away from concrete rush of life, one gets time to nourish oneself, to introspect and set true inner goals in life. Loving one's own company increases self acceptance that in turn improves self-esteem and confidence.
The result is a complete sense of wellness and this is how the East also describes health in Sanskrit language. 'Swasthya', means 'a person who is rooted into himself is holy and healthy'.
Disconnecting Improves Creativity, Problem Solving and Reasoning
The subconscious mind finds an answer when the conscious mind disconnects from the problem for some time - the "aha" moments! The answer to the missing links popped up into Albert Einstein's brain when he was playing with soap bubbles. There are other examples like that of Charles Darwin and Stephen King who could reason more intensely after long breaks of dis-connectivity. Had they felt that play time was morally wrong or a waste of time or money, what a loss it would have been to the world without such incredible intelligence.
Disconnecting Helps Regain Childlike Innocence
Youthful energy brings you into the here and now. Disconnecting helps to unload the head baggage of knowledge and worries for sometime.
The brain releases ‘feel good’ hormones during the disconnected time, bringing the body and mind into the present moment. As a result, one feels abundant in physical energy and wonder. The sense organs become really alive.
One also learns a way to relate and connect to the bigger family of universe to flora, fauna, animals, kids, people with whom we are indirectly interrelated. It leaves you more humble, in gratitude and in awe of everything you are connected to.
Swati Kumar is a Psychologist, Life Positive Wellness Coach and Relationship Counsellor. She holds frequent workshops on various dimensions of wellness including mind, body and emotions that help increase general well being as well as emotional and spiritual IQ.